Women often ask, “What happens after I place my child with their new adoptive family?” More than anyone in the adoption experience, a birth mother needs counseling, support, and an outlet to express her emotions after placement. There is life after adoption. Take a closer look at the many post-placement support services available to you.
Did I Make the Right Decision?
You decided early on that adoption was the best choice for your unplanned pregnancy. A few months later, you chose the perfect adoptive couple to raise your child. Meeting them confirmed they were the right choice.
It was hard to let go of your baby to them after giving birth, but you knew it was best for everyone. Now what? How do you move forward with your life as a birth mother?
Feelings of doubt are natural for all birth mothers. As a mother, you instinctively want to protect your child. Hopefully, you received thorough counseling throughout your adoption journey to determine what was best.
Lindsay Arielle is a birth mother and blogger for Considering Adoption.com. She has written for years about her journey of healing. Reading her blog is a source of comfort for many birth mothers.
Why Do I Feel so Alone?
You can feel extremely isolated after placing your child for adoption. Very few people understand your decision. If their opinions aren’t favorable toward adoption, you may feel unable to express your grief and pain openly. They may say, “Well, you made the choice. Now live with it.”
You did make a choice, but you don’t have to live alone with your decision. There are many online support groups to walk this journey with you. The following are a few you may want to consider joining:
- Birth Moms Today
Featuring “The Post-Adoption Journey Guide.” This site offers many benefits, such as a workshop, grief recovery support, 24/7 membership to the support group, and unlimited email support.
- Brave Love
This site lists established support groups by state. For instance, several groups in Texas meet either in person or online. You can also view videos of birth mothers who share their individual experiences.
- Knee to Knee
The group offers post-placement support groups, a free self-love journal project, a birth mother registry, and a support curriculum.
- Concerned United Birth Parents
CUB sponsors annual retreats. Their next retreat is October 13 - 15, 2023. In addition, they offer monthly CUB Zoom Support Group meetings.
- On Your Feet Foundation
On Your Feet offers monthly virtual birth parent support groups, a birth mom-to-birth mom mentor program, retreats, and Create!, a Birth Parent’s Arts Grant.
- Three Strands FB group
This FB group is open to birth mothers, adoptees, and adoptive moms. It’s a great place to ask questions and hear stories of the experiences of others.
How Can You Help Me?
At Adoption Angels, we understand the need for post-placement counseling and support services. We offer free counseling to help you throughout your adoption journey and beyond.
Placing your child for adoption can be painful, but you don’t have to walk your post-placement journey alone. Let us help you as you heal.
You have so much to offer your child. As Lindsay Arielle writes, “Healing is a journey, not a destination.” There is a brighter future for you ahead.
To discuss placing your child for adoption or your need for post-adoption support, please fill out our confidential
online contact form
or call or text (210) 227-2229. We’re here for you.
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